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went to Daniel Pipe's talk earlier. Bare with me if my views about him seemed biased. I heard about him from MSA emails and friends. To be honest, I never attend his talks or read any of his writings before. But, his point of view seems similar to Bush's in term of power. Muslim can be categorized to 2 groups which are the Militant Muslim and the Moderate Muslim. His duty, the American duty is to change, to reform this 'Militant Muslim' into a Moderate Muslim which are less threaten. He also pointed out that the Palestinians are bringing themselves into the situation they're facing now, but he refused to agree of what he quoted before that is, "Palestinians are miserable and they deserve that.."

The Q and A part was hot! believe me, I never seen such queue of people desiring answers from a speaker. He walked out after 10 or 11 questions only. I remembered some of his words, "not as stupid as you.." to a professor who teach Arabic and wearing a witch costume. I think he asked something about the his reaction to Jewish society.

Yes, I do have comment: The Muslims somehow showed themselves non-respectful acts. Shouting, 'assaulting', and etc. while Pipe was delivering his speech. They don't obey the rules such as one question per person, no waving signs and etc. which for me isn't a good way of saying "hey, we're Muslims and we are FRIENDS" 'Allahualam...

I was helping with the solidatory -- asking the non-Muslim women to wear hijab during his talk. It went well, all my scarf were borrowed, alhamdulillah.. but I was stunned by this woman comment, "I don't wanna wear this because I am not wearing it for the right purpose, I don't want to be disrespectful for what you believe in..." and I was like, she did make some sense. Why would you ask this people to wear hijab? to show that we are empowering the Americans? or just to show that there are many Muslim women on campus who are intrested in such event whereas they aren't that many? 'Allahualam...

I encourage 'Malaysian Muslim' especially the sisters, please please and please get up and start doing what you should. Yes, it has nothing to do with us YET, but we are so close, close enough that we should learn how to deal and try to avoid such disaster to reach our country. It is our duty! "God Knows Everything..."

Please come to this Thursday diversity event on Library Mall. It's gonna be fun and informative insyaAllah...

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amber called last nite, she wanted me to bring as many hijab as I could for Pipe's lecture today at the union. Wow, I bet they're going to 'protest' differently today. I do want to see this rasict person in person. What makes him acted as such? did he had unpleasant experiences with Muslim? or it just came out of his mind and mouth? 'Allahualam... we'll see tonite! come madisonians, let's hear Pipe's lecture! heh...

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hmm... am in memorial comp lab rite now, just finished working and waiting for meeting at 6 pm. That's all...

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when a child behaving badly, who is to be blamed? the child or the parents? or both? is happy family important in building better individuals? 'Allahualam... one can lists or talks about all this for days but will never knew how exactly it is until they have children of their own. Pointing to other people just make the situation worsen but giving hand in finding the best ethic to raise children would at least give hope for a better family. Maybe?

40 KESILAPAN IBU BAPA:

Pemilihan jodoh tanpa memperhitungkan mengenai zuriat
Perhubungan suami isteri tanpa memperhitungkan mengenai zuriat
Kurang berlemah lembut terhadap anak-anak
Memaki hamun sebagai cara menegur kesilapan anak-anak
Tidak berusaha mempelbagaikan makanan yang disajikan kepada anak-anak
Jarang bersama anak-anak sewaktu mereka sedang makan
Melahirkan suasana yang kurang seronok ketika makan
Membeza-bezakan kasih sayang terhadap anak-anak
Kurang melahirkan kasih sayang
Sering mengeluh di hadapan anak-anak
Tidak meraikan anak-anak ketika mereka pergi dan pulang dari sekolah
Tidak mengenalkan anak-anak dengan konsep keadilan
Tidak memberatkan pendidikan agama di kalangan anak-anak
Tidak terlibat dengan urusan pelajaran anak-anak
Tidak memprogramkan masa rehat dan riadah anak-anak
Tidak menggalakkan dan menyediakan suasana suka membaca
Mengizinkan anak-anak menjamah makanan dan minuman yang tidak halal
Tidak menunjukkan contoh tauladan yang baik di hadapan anak-anak
Jarang meluangkan masa untuk bergurau senda dengan anak-anak
Terdapat jurang komunikasi di antara ibubapa dengan anak-anak
Tidak menggunakan bahasa yang betul
Suka bertengkar di hadapan anak-anak
Sentiasa menunjukkan muka masam di hadapan anak-anak
Tidak membimbing anak-anak supaya mematuhi syariat
Memberi kebebasan yang berlebihan kepada anak-anak
Terlalu mengongkong kebebasan anak-anak
Tidak menunaikan janji yang dibuat terhadap anak-anak
Tidak menunjukkan minat kepada aktiviti anak-anak
Tidak memupuk semangat membaca di kalangan anak-anak
Tidak berminat melayan pertanyaan atau kemusykilan anak-anak
Tidak memberi perhatian terhadap buah fikiran anak-anak
Lambat memberi penghargaan kepada anak-anak
Kerap meleteri sesuatu kesilapan yang dilakukan anak-anak
Hukuman yang tidak setimpal dengan kesalahan yang dilakukan
Sering mengancam dan menakutkan anak-anak
Menghukum tanpa menyatakan kesalahan yang dilakukan
Tidak konsisten dalam menjatuhkan hukuman ke atas anak-anak
Memberi nasihat yang sama kepada anak-anak
Tidak tegas mendidik anak-anak
Tidak menggalakkan anak-anak hidup bekerjasama

Dipetik dari buku '40 kesilapan mendidik anak' oleh Dr. Hassan Ali.

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Kata ahli Hikmah, dunia ini dimulai dengan tangis, dicelahi oleh tangis dan diakhiri dengan tangis.

Menangis adakalanya dituntut oleh syariat. Abid yang menyintai Tuhan akan selalu menangis mengenangkan dosanya. Mereka memaksa diri menangis apabila mengenang nasib diri di hari akhirat dan membayangkan huru-hara apabila menjelang kiamat. Dalam hal ini menangis adalah dituntut. Setitis airmata yang jatuh kerana takutkan Allah akan dapat memadamkan api neraka di hari akhirat kelak.

Dalam sebuah hadis Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda bahawa air mata dari tangisan pembuat dosa yang bertaubat adalah lebih disukai Allah dari tasbih para wali. Rasulullah s.a.w juga ada bersabda: "Kejahatan yang dibuat lalu menimbulkan rasa sedih adalah lebih baik dari kebaikan yang menimbulkan rasa takbur."

Anas r.a berkata: Pada suatu hari Rasulullah s.a.w berkhutbah, lalu baginda bersabda dalam khutbahnya itu: "Andaikan kamu mengetahui sebagaimana yang aku ketahui, nescaya kamu akan sedikit ketawa dan banyak menangis." Anas berkata: seketika itu para sahabat menutup muka masing-masing sambil menangis teresak-esak.

Hari ini manusia terus menangis dan menangis, tetapi tangisan mereka amat jauh bezanya dengan tangisan para Nabi, Rasul dan sahabat. Jika orang soleh zaman dahulu menangis kerana mengenang nasibnya di akhirat tetapi orang hari ini menangis kerana takut kehilangan dunia. Tangisan ini datangnya dari sifat tamak dan tidak redha. Kalau orang soleh takut berpisah dengan iman dan kecintaannya pada Allah, orang hari ini takut berpisah dengan dosa dan maksiat. Jika para Nabi dan rasul serta para sahabat takut menghadapi akhirat, orang hari ini seolah-olah berani dan tidak takut menghadapinya. Tetapi bila orang soleh berani menghadapi gelombang hidup duniawi, orang hari ini takut dan lemah hati dalam menghadapi kegagalan dan kekecewaan dalam hidup.

Menangis dan menangislah tapi biarlah kena pada tempatnya yang dibolehkan oleh agama. Apa akan jadi jika kita gagal diakhirat? Inilah sebenarnya kegagalan yang total... Jadi kalau perkara ini yang kita tangiskan, memang kenalah pada tempatnya. Abu Hummah(Shadujja) Bin Adilan Albahily r.a berkata: Bersabda Rasulullah s.a.w: "Tiada suatu yang lebih disukai oleh Allah dari dua titis dan dua bekas. Titisan airmata kerana takut kepada Allah dan titisan darah dalam mempertahankan agama Allah. Adapun dua bekas adalah bekas dalam perjuangan fisabilillah dan bekas perjuangan kewajiban kepada Allah." (Riwayat Attirmizi).

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a little bit on adab-adab menziarah kubur

Menziarahi kubur adalah sunat bagi lelaki dan makruh bagi perempuan. Orang perempuan makruh berbuat demikian kerana sifatnya yang lemah, cepat berasa susah dan bimbang mereka akan mencucuri air mata sehingga lupa kekuasaan Allah s.w.t.

Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda yang bermaksud: “Daripada Buraidata, dahulu kau telah melarang kamu berziarah kubur, sekarang Muhammad telah mendapat izin untuk menziarahi kubur ibunya. Maka ziarahlah kamu kerana sesungguhnya ziarah kubur itu mengingatkan akhirat.” (Riwayat Muslim, Abu Daud dan Tarmizi).

Dalam hadis lain yang diriwayatkan oleh Bukhari, Anas bin Malik berkata, Nabi Muhamad s.a.w pernah berjumpa seorang wanita sedang menangis di sisi sebuah kubur lalu baginda bersabda, “Takutlah hai wanita kepada Allah dan bersabarlah.”

Berdasarkan hadis itu, boleh dibuat kesimpulan bahawa pada dasarnya Nabi Muhamad s.a.w tidak melarang wanita menziarahi kubur, tetapi baginda menasihatinya supaya bersabar.

Bagaimanapun, perlu diingatkan wanita yang ingin menziarahi kubur supaya menjaga diri daripada fitnah dengan memelihara kehormatannya seperti menutup aurat dan sebagainya. Wanita boleh menziarahi kubur atau menghantar jenazah ke kubur dengan syarat tidak bercampur atau berasak dengan lelaki yang boleh menimbulkan fitnah dan hendaklah mengawal emosi mereka dengan baik.

Menziarahi kubur menurut ajaran Islam bertujuan:

-Memberikan pengajaran.
-Mengingati hari akhirat.
-Menjadikan seseorang itu tidak mencintai dunia. Islam menggalakkan mencari kemajuan, tetapi melarang daripada mencintai dunia.
-Antara adab menziarahi kubur adalah seperti berikut.

-Berwuduk.
-Sunat mengucapkan salam kepada ahli kubur.
-Memohon doa dan keampunan bagi yang mati dan yang hidup serta berasa belas kasihan terhadap ahli kubur.
-Membaca al-Quran atau wirid.
-Dilarang meratapi orang yang mati, tetapi tidak mengapa menangis dengan tidak mengeluarkan kata ratapan.
-Dilarang memaki dan mengeluarkan kata yang buruk terhadap si mati.
-Dilarang duduk di atas kubur.
-Dilarang solat menghadap kubur.
-Dilarang lalu di atas kubur.

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my grandfather's beloved brother passed away after maghrib yesterday, innalillah...

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I read about this online. Intresting.

15 Tanda-tanda orang malas

Mereka yang tahu melakukan tetapi tidak mahu melakukannya

Mereka yang boleh melakukan tetapi enggan untuk melakukannya

Mereka yang berupaya melakukan tetapi tidak bersedia melakukannya

Mereka yang sanggup melakukan tetapi engkar untuk melakukannya

Mereka yang ditugaskan melakukan tetapi menolak untuk melakukannya

Mereka yang berpeluang melakukan tetapi mencari alasan untuk tidak melakukannya

Mereka yang diberi mudah untuk melakukan tetapi menganggap payah untuk melakukannya

Mereka yang sedikit melakukan tetapi mendakwa banyak telah melakukannya

Mereka yang biasa melakukan tetapi mengelak untuk melakukannya

Mereka yang sering melakukan tetapi mendakwa tidak biasa melakukannya

Mereka yang mahir melakukan tetapi mendakwa tidak pernah melakukannya

Mereka yang ada asas tetapi tidak mahu mencuba untuk melakukannya

Mereka yang sepatutnya melakukan tetapi mengelak untuk melakukannya

Mereka yang berkelapangan tetapi mendakwa suntuk untuk melakukannya

Mereka yang berdaya tetapi berpura-pura tidak boleh melakukannya

and also about being a good woman

"Empat jenis, siapa yang diberi akan keempat - empat jenis ini beerti dia telah memperolehi sebaik - baik dunia dan akhirat. Iaitu hati yang selalu bersyukur, lidah yang sentiasa berzikir, jiwa yang selalu sabar dengan cubaan dan isteri yang tidak melakukan dosa dan menzalimi suaminya".

Ath-Thabrani.

"Tidak perlu lagi seorang mukmin setelah ianya bertakwa kepada ALLAH akan sebaik - baik keperluan baginya selain dari isteri yang solehah. Jika ia menyuruh isteri mentaatinya. Dan jika dia melihat kepada isterinya, isterinya menyukakan hatinya. Dan jika dia menyumpah memarahi isterinya, isterinya tetap juga berbuat baik kepada suaminya. Dan jika suaminya tiada dirumah dia menyimpan rahsia dan harta suaminya".

Ibnu-majah.

"Janganlah kamu mengahwini wanita kerana paras rupa yang cantik, mungkin paras rupa itu membawa kehancuran, jangan kamu kahwini wanita kerana hartanya kerana berkemungkinan harta itu membawa kepada kezaliman. Tetapi kahwinlah wanita kerana agamanya, seorang wanita hamba yang hitam yang menghayati agama sesungguhnya lebih baik"

Ibnu - Majah.

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hehehe... am going back this summer insyaAllah... from July 2nd till August 24th.... :-) got to see my sis give birth la! hehe... insyaAllah... insyaAllah...

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heh... watched mami jarum last nite with housemates -- funny and very very representing malaysian, especially the malays. It's hurt when u said sth about other people, and after that it happen to you or someone you know. For example, when you always like to make other people uncomfortable about exams and stuff, then when they did the same you felt angry. Also when you always talk about other people's bad behavior and what a failure they and their family are, and then when something happen to you or your family, you just kept quiet! heh... you throw the shit but your hand stinks! 'Allahualam...

I am fat, fatter than I was before... hahahaha... so how? felt like going back home but also felt like staying here.. so how? I'll make good decision regarding this insyaAllah... "Ya Allah, please give guidance to me... ameen" salam...

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paper assignment for soc 160 -- Human Sexuality

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail and How to Make Yours Last

In the book “Why Marriages Succeed Or Fail And How To Make Yours Last”, Gottman points out attitudes that doom a marriage and advices on how to strengthen the marriage. Gottman first present the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” which are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. These four attitudes are warning signs to failed marriages and should be recognized early to help maintain the relationship.

In critism, individuals attack their partners’ personality or character in general rather than attacking specific behavior and usually include blaming and accusatory. This attitude is not a problem until it becomes pervasive. When a person is contempting, he has intention of insulting or psychologically abusing his partner. Person with this kind of attitude tends to completely forget their partner’s personal quality and always have negative thoughts about the partner. Some examples of contempt include insulting, name-calling, mockery, sneering, and rolling eyes. The third warning sign is defensiveness. Defensiveness can occur when partners are denying responsibilities and making excuses to protect themselves. Sometime it occurs when a person is disagreeing with negative mind reading of the partner and when a person complaint meets the partner’s complaint or cross complaining. Other kinds of act that contribute to defensiveness attitudes are rubber man and rubber woman, yes-butting, repeating-yourself syndrome, whining and body languages. Stonewalling happens during interaction between partners. The stonewalled becomes completely silent portraying an icy distance, disapproval and smugness act. This is a poor communication skills that will never help a failing relationship but does not indicate an end of relationship either. Gottman’s research indicates that men have more tendencies to become stonewalled than women.

The four horsemen is a problem because it interferes in marital communication and discourages partners to find solutions to their problems. It creates a cycle of discord and negativity that is hard to overcome but it is not saying that the marriage has failed. In order to help couples encounter their marital problems, Gottman also develops a typology of marriage (Holman 1995). He states that married couples are categorized into validating couples, volatile couples and avoidant couples. By recognizing which category they fit in, they could solve the problems.

Gottman also suggests four keys to improving marriages. His first advice is to learn to calm down whenever either partner feel overwhelmed with the situation especially men, as they tend to get overwhelmed easily than women. Schmaling, Whisman, Fruzzetti, and Truax (1991) who assessed the marital interaction behaviors associated with wives' depression. They found that wife was associated with fewer depressive symptoms and the absence of a diagnosis of major depression (2002). The second step is to speak and listen nondefensively to the partner. Responding with admiration and praise to the partner help avoid fighting. The last step is validation that is to show that he or she understand his or her partner. Instead of blaming and defending, both partners should take responsibility, apologize and do the minimum.

Gottman also includes many exercises, quizzes, and tips from his longitudinal research in the book for the readers to use as a guideline in handling their own marital problems. He emphasizes that lots of sex doesn’t necessarily help a marriage and arguing which each other does not always lead to divorce. Interestingly, he predicts that wives who likes to make sour facial expressions when her husband talks is more likely to be separated within four years. Gottman believes that for every problems that occur in a marital relationship, there are solutions and if the couples cooperates with each other, the problems will be solve faster and could withdraw further negative arguments.

Gottman began studying couples interaction styles in the early 1980’s. He uses research methods such as observations which he does inside and outside laboratories, questionnaires and interviews and also physiological measures like heart rate, blood flow, perspiration and stress-related hormones to support his prediction and introduce new method that is workshops (Rochester 2002).

Observation method that he used is a good method because there are evidences that throughout the years, more and more sophisticated observational techniques founded. Hyde and Delamater in their book Human Sexuality state that direct observation have advantage in overcoming purposeful distortion or inaccurate memory problem in self-report although it is time consuming and expensive. This method had been use in the 1970’s by few behavioral and child psychologists to describe marital interactions (Rochester 2002). Observations can be done outside the laboratory and sometime give more accurate result to researchers. For example, older research shows that interaction in the lab underestimates differences between distressed and nondistressed couples, compared to tape recordings made in couples' homes (Gottman 1979).

Gottman not only use observation in his research but also go through questionnaires and interviews with participants where he has opportunities to ask more detail questions and at the same time measure the participants’ reaction to the questions (Rochester 2002). There are many advantages using questionnaires and interviews method such as to administer illiterate participants, to get more honest answers because of anonymosity and to build mutual trust relationship with participants and gain more accurate answers.

The use of physiological measures in studies of marital interaction has increased in the decade (Gottman 2000). Gottman, Jacobson, Rushe, and Shortt (1995) reported a typology of batterers based on physiological measure on heart rate reactivity. Gottman invites participants among them are married couples to his laboratory, hooked them with devices to record physiological measures and videotaped the couples respond to his questions. He analyzed the recording tapes and observed how the couples deal with issues that he presented. Gottman is not the only researcher who uses this method but many others did too. For example, Levenson, Ekman, Heider, and Friesen also use the same method to measure emotional and physiological of a problematic couples. In fact, all researchers similarly did follow up on their participants to prove that their predictions are correct (Peterson 2002). The computer usage helps on obtaining measurement and statistics. Fincham, Garpier, Gano-Phillips, and Osborne (1995) use two computer tasks to operational accessibility and measured response latencies to specific questions about the spouse or the marriage.

In many other major researches on marriage, old and modern researchers use the same method as Gottman did in his studies. All of the methods are well established and follows the ethical standards of most scientific organizations. Furthermore, participants are protected from harm and have the right to discharge from the research at any time. Gottman did analyze both husbands and wives and fairly indicates that both could contribute to a ruin marriage and help keep a long lasting marriage. Gottman research on marriage couples is acceptable and can be used in everyday life. From his follow up years after, there is huge percentage of correct prediction. His combination of observational and statistical method made his research more accurate. The statistical or mathematical approach was initially suggested by Rapoport (1960, 1972), using differential equations to represent parameters of mutual influence but he had no data for his model, no idea of what to measure, and his equations were linear, which are well-known to be unstable. However, in recent years, nonlinear equations have been successfully applied based on the Rapoport example (Cook, Tyson, White, et al., 1995; Gottman, Murray, Swanson, et al., in press; Gottman, Swanson, & Murray, 1999).

Gottman is a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and a world-renowned researcher in topics in marriage. He is the author of more than 100 research articles for professional journals and has authored, coauthored, or edited over 30 books. He is the recipient of numerous prestigious awards for his extensive contributions to marriage and family research, including Distinguished Scientist Awards from the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, the International Society for the Study of Family Relationships in 1989, the American Family Therapy Academy in 1993, and from the State of Washington American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists in 1994. He received the prestigious Burgess Award from the National Council on Family Therapists in 1995 for Distinguished Contributions to Family Research, as well as the Presidential Citation Award from the American Psychological Association for Outstanding Lifetime Research Contribution. He has also been elected Fellow of the American Psychological Association, serving as Chairman of Research for Division 43, Family Psychology; and he is the U.S. Representative for the International Academy of Family Psychology. He has further been the recipient of the highly regarded Research Scientist Award from the National Institutes of Mental Health on an ongoing basis since 1979 (Aycock 2002).

He conducted seminars, lectures, and workshops throughout the world for his colleagues in the field of psychology and family relations. He has appeared on numerous national television shows such as 20/20, Dateline NBC, the Oprah Winfrey Show, and Good Morning America. He is the director, co-founder of the Gottman Institute, where he offers workshops for clinicians and for couples on improving marital communication, based directly on his scientific research into how long-term happy and stable marriages actually work (Aycock 2002). Given his achievements and contributions to the psychological studies of topics in marriage, he is a good researcher and his researches are very effective in understanding, recognizing and predicting successful or failure marriages.

Works Cited
Aycock, Anthony. “The Gottman Institute / Smart Marriages.” Library Journal New York Feb 1, 2002 (Vol. 127 Iss. 2)
Gottman, John; Holman, Thomas B. “Book reviews -- What Predicts Divorce?” Family Relations Jan 1995 (Vol. 44 Iss. 1)
Gottman, John; Rochester. “A two-factor model for predicting when a couple will divorce: Exploratory analyses using 14-year longitudinal data / Commentary / Reply” Family Process Spring 2002 (Vol. 41 Iss. 1)
Gottman, John; Rochester. “Marital research in the 20th century and a research agenda for the 21st century” Family Process Summer 2002 (Vol. 41 Iss. 2)
Gottman, John. Why Marriages Succeed or Fail and How to Make Yours Last New York: 1994
Hyde, Janet S.; Delamater, John D. Understanding Human Sexuality Eight Edition New York: 2003
Peterson, Karen S. “For better sex: Less conflict, more friendship.” [FINAL Edition] USA TODAY (Va. Jul 15, 2002)

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"hah... orang kaya memang berlagak" dalam drama kita selalu dengar kan? aha... kat madison ni memang betul2 ade situasi macam tu -- anak orang kaya besar-besar diri sambil memperkecil2kan orang lain. Gaji 4 angka tak pandang sebab dia boleh dapat gaji 5 angka, dia ada kuasa besar boleh jatuhkan orang lain and all.. ape lah!? tak sekolah ke? gi balik Malaysia lah! duk sini nyakitkan hati orang saje... eiiii...

lately, someone or group of people keep sending email paraphrasing other people sentences or brought up issues. WHY in the world would you wanna do that? don't you have any beneficial works to do? or are you surrounded by bucnh of crappy? huh!? STOP la!!!! tenyeh muka kat jalan raya baru tahu! eiii.....

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I really really want to cook this:

BADAK BERENDAM

Bahan-bahan:
1 paket (500 gram) tepung pulut

Inti kelapa:
1 biji kelapa muda - diparut
2 keping gula enau
Gula pasir - ikut manis
1 cawan air
2 helai daun pandan

Cara membuat inti:
Masukkan semua bahan dalam kuali dan tunggu hingga kering, sampai menjadi inti.

Cara membuat doh:
Gaul tepung pulut dengan air sehingga menjadi doh yang boleh dibentuk.
Dengan menggunakan sedikit minyak masak di atas kepingan daun pisang yang telah dilayur,
bentukkan tepung pulut sehingga menjadi sebesar telur penyu.
Lenyekkan senipis 1 cm kepingan bulat. Masukkan inti di tengah-tengah.
Bentukkan seperti karipap.

Mengukus:
Larutkan 2 sudu besar tepung gandum bersama 500 ml santan pekat dan sedikit garam.
Dalam takung pengukus, alas bersama daun pisang yang telah dilayur.
Susun kepingan kuih sepang dan masukkan santan pekat yang telah digaul bersama tepung gandum tadi.
Kukus hingga masak selama 10-15 minit.

insyaAllah next week or this summer ...

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it's been a while since I wrote on my own. Bush's idea of rebuilding Iraq really really made me angry. Why would he wants to interfere other's country administration. Isn't US enough for him? I think he wants to stick to his ancestors who had made revolutions. Can't we all just make peace on earth?

I was working at noon and the temperature was so high that I felt like passing out. Sandy got me a fan -- Thanks! :-) but I couldn't stay longer due to incomplete academic works. What would you do when your friend did something wrong? would you directly points out his/her mistakes or you would find a way so that you could both 'correct' her and still be her friend? I learned about good communication today in soc class. Yep, it's more directed towards communication in marriage couples but I strongly think that this could be applied to any other kind of relationship either. If you want to find readings about this topic, I would highly recommend you John Gottman's books. He did tons of research on communication especially in couples. Never dump on your partner all of your collective complaints and etc at one time, instead try to solve one by one.

ok, need to get to my paper.

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I have been thinking about doing the same survey before, and yet it's not been realized. Here, a brother helps me explaining what I have in mind. Jazakallah....

From a mailing list:

Assalamualaikum warahmatullah
Sahabat yang dirahmati Allah sekelian,

"Katakanlah (wahai Muhammad) kepada orang-orang lelaki yang beriman
supaya mereka menyekat pandangan mereka (daripada memandang yang haram)
dan memelihara kehormatan mereka. Yang demikian itu lebih suci bagi
mereka; sesungguhnya Allah Amat Mendalam PengetahuanNya tentang apa yang mereka kerjakan.

Dan katakanlah kepada perempuan-perempuan yang beriman supaya menyekat
pandangan mereka (daripada memandang yang haram) dan memelihara
kehormatan mereka dan janganlah mereka memperlihatkan perhiasan tubuh
mereka kecuali yang zahir daripadanya; dan hendaklah mereka menutup
belahan leher bajunya dengan tudung kepala mereka; dan janganlah mereka
memperlihatkan perhiasan tubuh mereka melainkan.....(Quran,24:30-31)

Namun masing-masing 'argue' sejauh mana pergaulan ini mesti dipelihara.
Pendapat ini di'quote' dari beberapa orang (sumber adalah saheed tetapi
dirahsiakan nama yang bercakap).

"Pergaulan kita sekarang memang berleluasa. Banyak Muslim yang duduk
laki dan perempuan berpasangan tanpa nikah, bergelak ketawa sesama
sendiri, tidak menundukkan pandangan dsb. Hal ini amat dimurkai Allah."

"Kalau duduk laki perempuan berdua tidak di tempat sunyi OK je. Macam di
library, di komputer lab atau di tempat membeli belah"

"Kalau lelaki perempuan bersentuh2, memang tak boleh. Tapi kalau tak
bersentuhan, tidaklah mengapa dalam Islam. "

"Kalau lelaki perempuan ramai dan tempat terbuka tak de masalah. Apatah
lagi kalau ada pihak authority seperti ustaz dan pegawai kerajaan.
Insha-allah akan terkawal. Bukan itu yang terbaik tapi kita kena bagi
peluang. Banyak juga program agama yang bercampur lelaki perempuan ...."

Mana idea yang benar menurut Islam?

Survey MSN Messenger 4.7 dan Yahoo Messenger
**********************************************
Kerana banyak interpretation pergaulan dalam Islam, satu soalan survey
telah dilaksanakan. Soalan ringkas ini dijalankan menggunakan MSN
Messenger 4.7 kepada beberapa belas sahabat yang sudi berkongsi pendapat.

Soalan yang ditanyakan:

Version I
"Jika anda telah berkahwin, adakah anda suka suami/isteri anda bergelak
ketawa dan bersuka ria dengan lelaki/perempuan lain? Mengapa?"

dan

Version II
"Jika anda telah berkahwin, adakah anda suka suami/isteri anda bergelak
ketawa dan bersuka ria dengan perempuan/lelaki lain (bukan mahram)?
Mengapa?"

Maklumbalas yang didapati:

"tidak, kerana tidak sepatutnya" - Brother CWRU

"hoh...kalau saya la, jawapan saya tak definite. tngok keadaan la.kalau
boleh, tak nak. eh jap. bersuka ria dgn bergelak ketawa tu jauh tu.
kalau bersuka ria, mmg tak nak la.kalau gelak ketawa, tu yg tak definite
tu.buatnye sedara mara dia ke..." - Brother Purdue

"bergantung rasanya. kalau ketawa tidak keterlaluan tak mengapa"
-Brother Purdue

"tak suka.tapi tgk extent.sbb cemburu" - Brother Purdue

"mencabar minda jugak ni. bergelak ketawa dgn berlainan jantina ke.tak
setuju juga.. sbb jealous " Brother Vanderbilt U

"tak suka. Isteri/suami perlu melebihkan suami/isterinya berbanding org
lain. Baik dielakkan." - Brother Purdue

"bergelak ketawa cam ner nie..emmm..kalo saya....bergelak ketawa..tgk
batas laa..takleh laa lebih2..kalo ngan pompuan samer laki..tuh tak leh
laa..lebih sgt..kalo sama pompuan..maybe..takde salah nyer kot..sbb ngan
laki..kang nanti..takut jadi ape2 lak kan..maner laa tau.."
Brother Delaware

"x suka" -Brother IU

"ooh ok..jawapan : saya tak suka isteri saya bergelak ketawa dgn lelaki
lain.kerana saya rasa dia tidak menjaga akhlaknya sbg isteri muslim. tu
saje kot lebih kurang jawapan saya" - Brother Michigan Ann Arbor

"maksudnya .. kalau kita suami ... kita tgk isteri gelak dgn laki lain
...kalau kita isteri....kita tgk suami gelak dgn isteri lain ?ermm..
rasanya .. mesti la jawapan tu ..kita tak suka.sbb ...ermm tak pasti
lah.jealous la kot.satu lagi .. tak patut lah..kalau kita muslim ..
isteri pulak sembang2 dan gelak dgn laki lain.kalau non muslim macam
american mungkin depa tak kisah.survey apa ni?" - Brother Purdue

"ok ok, hypothetical.....tak, sebab jealous.....depends context "
-Brother Purdue

"kena ada batas.tapi kena berbatas.takleh lelebih.mengapa? sebab manusia
perlu berinteraksi sesama sendiri .well...for example...kalau someone
buat lawak..and my isteri ketawa...apa salahnya...tapi...kalau someone
cam flirting flirting... and my isteri pon tunjuk macam minat.... itu
yang lebih..." - Brother Purdue

" tidak"- Brother USC

"x. menimbulkan prasangka "- Brother Purdue

"tidak "- Brother Purdue

"hmm...bersuka ria..tu camner...confirm saya tak suke...pasal...saya
akan rasa cemburu...dan akan menimbulkan fitnah dan syak wasangka dari
orang lain " - Brother IU

"saya memang ada masalah kalau isteri saya bergelak sakan dengan orang
lain, mesti ditegur tapi kenalah berhikmah" - Brother Texas

"ooo. bagi saya mmg ade batas2 nye. tapi kalau saye kenal dan percaya
akan lelaki/perempuan tuh dan saya present ketika itu .perkahwinan bukan
satu barrier utk suami/isteri saya dr berkawan...itu pada pendapat
saya.other ppl might think otherwise" -Brother Purdue

" alamak... soalan tu terlampau general laa sheikh... yg dimaksudkan
tuh, lelaki bukan mahram "isteri" ana ke?well, kalau ikut konteks &
penggunaan kata yg anta gunekan, yakni bergelak-ketawa & bersuka-ria",
sudah tentu ana tidak suka... gelak-ketawa tu mungkin orait
sket, cause it can mean positive things, but bersuka-ria tu
brings -ve connotation..." - Brother Florida

"insha-allah saya akan jaga pergaulan saya. kalau ade sister yang style
macam tu, saya reject awal2 lagi le...." Brother Purdue

"mean..pretend dah kawin ker? sekrang ni? emm...pada pendapat
pakcik..... selagi tak membatasi ape yang Islam batas...pakcik tak
kesah....tapi rase nye gelak gelak tu pakcik tak setujula bende tu.
actually kene mula dari awal pemilihab n tu jer yang pakcik boleh
cakap" - Brother RPI

Kesimpulan
************************************

1.Itu pendapat dari brothers. Sisters tak dapat dicapai kerana hanya ade
beberapa contact dan kebanyakannya tidak membalas . Satu balasan yang
diterima - tidak mahu memberi pendapat. Jika ada sesiapa sisters yang
ingin beri pendapat sila poskan di mailing list ini.

2. Jika tidak mahu suami/isteri berbuat sebagaimana dalam soalan, maka
perlulah kita menjaga pergaulan sekarang kerana mungkin di kalangan
crowd kita sekarang (dalam pergaulan, Midwest Game, program-program am dsb)
adalah bakal suami/isteri ( bagi yang belum berkahwin)

3. Dan lebih penting cuba bayangkan dalam Midwest Game atau mana-mana
program akan datang, suami/isteri kita adalah di kalangan peserta yang
akan hadir . Adakah kita sanggup memilih suami/isteri di kalangan yang
bertepuk tampar, bergelak sakan di tepi padang soccer atau bersakan ria
di medan bola tampar lelaki dan perempuan untuk mencari kemenangan kolej
semata-mata ?

Marilah kita takutkan Allah dan berbuat apa yang disukainya. Kalau kita
tidak suka (base pada survey), bagaimana lagi Allah yang wajib kita taati...?

Tasbeeh kaffarah

assalamualeikum wbt

received email from Kak Tini about TB immunization. To Malaysia, if you already gotten BCG and some other shot since baby, you need not to have any other shot or antibiotic because the one that you ahd before should last life-long. Don't get too excited to get treatment in this 'rich' country. heh...

I am loaded with academic stuff these days. More intresting, all of it due within this week. PaperS, assignment, homework and etc. "May Allah make it easy for me... ameen...."

assalamualeikum wbt

the fundraising was a successful, alhamdulillah. Gathering today too -- congrats to all who made it to the gathering! u all rawks! hahaha... I tried eating rice with 'sambal belacan' ONLY and the result: pedassssssssnye! isk....

They are talking about a movie titled East Is East -- a pakistani marrying a british and have children together. I think the movie tries to pint out about pakistani costumes but it ended up being hillarious, heh... can't wait to watch it.

sleepy

Assalamualaikum wrwb

Maaf,harap dapat beri penjelasan,kalau *** *** silap.
Adakah midwest yang *** maksudkan program yang msd
anjurkan yang bercampurgaul lelaki dan perempuan tu?
yang *** *** dapat cerita ada permainan gabung lelaki
dan perempuan satu pasukan?Kalau itulah yang
dimaksudkan *** *** tidak bersetuju samasekali untuk
buat jualan di situ untuk dana ***** atau ****.Ianya
seolah kita juga menyokong atau bersubahat dengan cara
gaya mereka.Matlamat tidak menghalalkan cara.
Jika ada sesiapa yang hendak pergi pastikan anda ada
missi da'wah.Jalankan amar ma'ruf nahi munkar.Jika
tidak kita akan dikira sama dengan mereka.s6/68-73
Jika bi'ahnya solehah,silakan dan syabas kerana
sentiasa berfikir untuk islam.
Maaf kepada semua ahli ****** ***** kerana *** ***
terlalu mendiamkan diri di mailing list ini.Maaf
terutama kepada ******* dan *****.

assalamualeikum wbt

hmm... soc exam went fine alhamdulillah... am working in soc sci ref lib rite now, with only 3 or maybe 4 people I think it's pretty boring in here. Pat seems to have gain more and more trust from me, thanks Pat. Since am not going back this summer, I'll be working most of the time and classes of course! finally got break from everything! alhamdulillah...

Bro. Lan is being unreasonable; sending sarcastic email to mailing list and assuming someone will get hurt by it. Stupidity doesn't bring you anything if you acts more towards it. Understand? So, was it the 'community' faults if your girlfriend didn't get in touch with us? did u ever encourage her to do so? kamu sebuk memadu asmara berdua saja kan. Dah naik bosan dah dgn email2 memperli and email-email pasal hal peribadi nih! stop it please...! be matured!

and to bro. Hakeem, if u were reading this: "aha... tayar kereta tuh macam dah flat, kami nih tak reti nak isi angin, tolong isikan boleh?"

what can be shared and what can't?

chatted with acab earlier. I invited her to our gathering this Saturday. So, the question again:

What can or what can't be shared?

are you willingly telling friends about yourself? and if you were married, will you tell others about your relationship with your spouse? where is the limit? Is everyone trustable? what makes you said that?

I was in boarding school since 13. It was a pretty intresting experience being in such community. I liked to write stuff in my diary and I put my diary under my pillow. One night after studying, I went back to my room finding my roomate reading my diary and she was happy doing it. I rushed to get back my dairy but she refused to give me back instead she called other people in the house and started reading out my diary loud. I was confused at the time but I did smiled though I felt like killing her at once. My other friend caught the book and gave it back to me, since then I never wrote anything, I kept everything inside 'here' and learn the act of isolation. I woke up very very early every morning, went to the mosque then went to class and study, took breakfast, went to formal class, went to study again, played hockey and handball and went to bed. That was my routine since the incident. She did continue making fun of me about my writings and never stop doing so. I was in the same class with her for 3 years. It was hell. She never said sorry or confronted me about me and I just kept it to myself till I graduated. Hopefully she'll learn something at present.

"If ye are on a journey, and cannot find a scribe, a pledge with possession (may serve the purpose). And if one of you deposits a thing on trust with another, let the trustee (faithfully) discharge his trust, and let him fear his Lord. Conceal not evidence; for whoever conceals it, his heart is tainted with sin. And Allah knoweth all that ye do." Al-Baqarah:283

Iraq is gone, now they're going after Syria. What's next? Malaysia? nauzubillah....

assalamualeikum wbt

Daylight saving time has begun. Still unsure about going back to Malaysia though personally I do want to go back to see how's my abah's doing and mekmah too... am gonna be an aunt soon! so so happy. In fact I did the baby shopping more than my sister did. Lucky her to have her baby first and also to have a sister like me.. hehehe :-)

wanna call aseks and clear things up before it's too late. "Ya Allah berilah aku kekuatan... ameen"
will go to class, then to work and back to #7 to prepare dinner. What would I cook? hmm... soc exam is on Thursday and P4 is due on Wenesday and Quiz 4 is also due on Wednesday and not to forget draft for paper soc also due tomorrow!

assalamualeikum wbt

oh well... today me and my housemates went out for the whole day -- went to west area: Walmart, Burlington and etc. while the other Madisonians went to Plateville. It's much fun going out with friends for fun rather than embrassing yourself on stage, kan? prepared shrimp fried rice and mazu fried some squids... Ijan is still sick :-( get well soon insyaAllah...

I hope you hope she hope -- intresting!
Dave, if you were reading my blog rite now, please call me -- wanna know hoe your dad's doing? ok? thanks...
I would like to recommend everybody to watch THE CORE, scientific sungguh!

I heard my Islam Religion and Culture prof. talk about the number 786. What does the number means?

"786" is the total value of the letters of "Bismillah al-Rahman al-Rahim". In Arabic there are two methods of arranging letters. One method is the most common method known as the alphabetical method. Here we begin with Alif, ba, ta, tha etc. The other method is known as the Abjad method or ordinal method. In this method each letter has an arithmetic value assigned to it from one to one thousand. The letters are arranged in the following order: Abjad, Hawwaz, Hutti, Kalaman, Sa'fas, Qarshat, Sakhaz, Zazagh. This arrangement was done, most probably in the 3rd century of Hijrah during the 'Abbasid period, following other Semitic languages such as Phoenician, Aramaic, Hebrew, Syriac, Chaldean etc. If you take the numeric values of all the letters of the Basmalah, according to the Abjad order, the total will be 786. In the Indian subcontinent the Abjad numerals became quite popular. Some people, mostly in India and Pakistan, use 786 as a substitute for Bismillah. They write this number to avoid writing the name of Allah or the Qur'anic ayah on ordinary papers. This tradition is not from the time of the Prophet -peace be upon him- or his Sahabah. It developed much later, perhaps during the later 'Abbasid period. We do not know of any reputable Imams or Jurists who used this number instead of the Bismillah. It is better that we use Bismillah, rather than using any mystery numbers. There is a great blessing in reciting Bismillah before any important act.

it's quiet a common pratice in Malaysia where a traditional healer will blows on himself or to others after reciting verse(s) from the Quran al-karim. Is it right to do so? Is it a sunnah, something that our beloved Prophet did?

Breathing out or blowing on is mentioned in the Qur'an and Hadith in many places. It is called "nafkh" or "nafth". Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala created human being by blowing into him His spirit. (Al-Hijr 15:29; Saad 38:72; al-Sajdah 32:9) The end of this world as well as the resurrection will take place by the Blowing into the Trumpet. (nafkh al-Sur, al-Zumar 39:68, Yasin 36:51) It is mentioned that Jesus -peace be upon him- performed some miracles by blowing on the sick person or the dead person. "Dam-e-Isa" is a quite famous expression in Islamic literature. It is mentioned in many Ahadith that the Prophet -peace be upon him - also used to blow on the sick people and they used to be cured by the blessings of Allah's words. Hazrat 'Aishah -may Allah be pleased with her- said, "Whenever someone from the family of the Prophet would get sick, the Prophet used to recite the Mu'awwidhat (the prayers that begin with A'udhu, especially the last two Surahs of the Qur'an) and then he used to blow his breath on that person. When the Prophet himself was in his last illness, I recited the same verses and blew my breath on his hand and then rubbed him by his own hand, because Prophet's hand had more blessing than my hand." (Muslim, Hadith no. 4065) It is also mentioned in the some Ahadith that it was the habit of the Prophet -peace be upon him- to go to bed on his right side and then before sleeping he used to recite Ayatal Kursi, Surah al-Ikhlas (no. 112), Surah al-Falaq (no. 113) and Surah al-Nas (no. 114). He then used to cup his both hands and then breath into them and then used to rub them all over his face and body. (al-Bukhari, Hadith no. 5307). Blowing on and rubbing on the head, face or the body of a sick person was a common practice among all the Companions of the Prophet also. Allah's word, the Qur'an, has many blessings and it has a great healing power. However, we should keep in mind that only the Qur'an and authentic Prophetic prayers (ad'iyah masnunah) should be used for this purpose. It is better to be done by the elders in the family or some pious Muslims in the community. Blowing has nothing to do with magic spells, although it may appear like that to some people. Muslims only rely on Allah. We pray only to Him and we seek His help through our prayers. Some scholars used to say that the blessings in the blowing comes from the Dhikr and the reading of the Qur'an. Our breath participates in mentioning the name of Allah, so it also receives the blessing of His name.

assalamualeikum wbt

tried calling makcik earlier but aseks answered the phone. What to do? Dave called from Beloit. He said that his dad was hospitalize again :-( Talk to his mom too... hopefully she'll take it easy though I know it's scary... Get well soon! so so sleepy but it's only 12:05 am here. Maybe continue with my reading... tomorrow will be the big day -- Madison people are going to Plateville for Discover Malaysia! huhuhu.. all da' best! want to go but do not want to go either... hahaha

a cs major joke:

"Two engineering students had thoroughly impressed their Professor in one of their core subjects, having achieved the highest marks throughout the semester's continuous assessments. Being one to give credit where due, the Prof made no secret of his two prize students, continually praising their achievements. The weekend before their final exam (which was to contribute fifty percent of their final grade,) these two geniuses felt they deserved a hard earned break and so went out of town to celebrate their 'pending' success. Having partied late all weekend (and then some,) the two students overslept Monday morning, missing their final exam! Never lacking in will power, they were determined not to fail, having come so far, so well. Upon rolling into town, they appealed to the Prof, and conveniently explained that they had a flat tire while out visiting and that it was not their fault for missing the exam. The Professor was very understanding and rescheduled their exam to the next day, much to the student's delight! They arrived at his office the next morning, where he sat them on each side of his desk facing opposite walls, while he worked on grading the other exams. They opened their examination books and were both pleased with the first easy 10-point question that came directly from a homework assignment. You could hear nothing but the quick writing of their pencils in the room, until they both flipped the page, almost at the same time, where the second question read thusly... "90 points: Which tire?"

funny enough? heh...

assalamualeikum wbt

hmm... speaking about nationality, I met Amir (the Israelian guy from my Islam, Religion and Culture class last semester) in the library. Always the first thing he'll ask is about my studies, "how your study going?". Few weeks before I saw his name on the Badger Herald's advertisement, one full page of names who support Israel and so I asked him, "Did they ask you to put your name on that advertisement?" and he said, "Nope, I didn't know, but it's ok. Yeah, I don't agree a lot with my country but I am still an Israelian." I knew he wouldn't put his name voluntarily but, whatever...

People keep arguing on some issues nowadays which is mostly good but when it comes to attacking individuals, I don't think it is academic anymore. But still, we do not have any rights to judge anybody for what they wrote. Then, how do you see other people? I mean, how do you determine good and bad person? Which category are you in? hmm... experties will say this is subjective questions... heh

There was a conflict back in MRSM PDRM where the Muslim Student Association's committee didn't agree with the Student Board about certain issue, so they fight back. But the representative from MSA wasn't that 'good' either, so the crowd talked about him. He heard about it and so he gave public speech that night about receiving content by not judging the person who gives the content. Like when you see a bad wrapper but you don't directly say that the food inside doesn't taste good, things like that. I never thought of such 'ideology' before... nice.

I wasn't that good either. Well, whose gonna say the other way right? There's huge different between learning and practicing. When you do mistakes while learning, people won't put such blame on you because they you are learning something you didn't know before but when you're practicing, even if it was a tiny mistakes, people will say sth like "ohh... he always forgot...", "hmm... she isn't a good girl" or "why is she different now?" kan?

Is it wrong to dance on stage? Is it a sin to wear tight shirt and makes the guys give good complement about your butt? hmm... think

hanya padamu
pertama dan yang terakhir
pohon cintaku merendang
disirami kasih suci....

tiada dua hanyalah satu
kau yang kucintai

when reading lyrics like above, we'll have thoughts on LOVE or couples... try reading the lyrics one more time. Is there any differences from nasyid song lyrics, modern nasyid? heh...

mumbling too much! stop

assalamualeikum wbt

I like the story below... "pedas tapi ngancam" my friend said....
hohoho.. made up my mind, am not going to the voting session tonite -- rather stays at home finishing my papers.
so, what paper? soc 160 paper, just a summary of a book I read titled "Why Marriages Succeed or Fail and how you can make yours last" by John Gottman. Intresting and have lots of questionaires... I would recommended this book to everyone.

I make mistake at work yesterday, thus I have to rescan about 50 pages again :-( which is boring because I'm using the Pulnix scanner (huge scanner that needs you to be extra careful about focusing and lighting). Tips on this: always ask if unsure... OK

today in sex class, we had a transgender speaker. She was a male, a husband and a father of 2 children before she made up her mind to change her gender to female. She said that she had continues dreams about being a girl during her child and because of lack of information and limited resources and supports, she 'tortured' himself by being a man. She don't have friends when she was a kid and never dated anyone in high school. She met her wife after graduating high school, ended up marrying her and have kids with her. She had no difficulties functioning as a man but she felt that there's something missing inside. She told her wife about it and she seemed ok at first but later on she freaked out and left her. Her wife took their kids along but she filed a divorce and the children live under her custody until now. He only did come out as a woman after all her children were out of the house. They seems ok with her changing identity but some of her immediate families weren't that supportive. But she said she's fine with that. My prof. showed some slide on the surgery process and before-after picture. The surgery was hurt but it's worth it, they said. It is not about sexuality but it's about identity, about being someone else.

the story:

Pada pagi itu, seperti mana pagi-pagi yang lain, aku menyambut kedatangan seorang tetamu tetapku.
"Assalamualaikum", seru Subuh.
"Wa'alaikumsalam", sahutku.

Dan kami terus berpelukan, tanda rindu serta kasih sayang. Kutanya khabar Subuh, bagaimana keadaannya mengembara dari satu tempat ke satu tempat.
"Tadi..", kata Subuh dengan sayu, "... aku baru sahaja melintasi satu
tempat.

Kucari tempat persinggahan, kuketuk rumah-rumah yang sunyi, tapi satupun yang tiada mahu menerimaku sebagai tetamu." Dan airmata Subuh pun berlinangan.

"Subuh, usah kau pedulikan mereka, bukankah aku menyambutmu dengan penuh rasa kegembiraan? Subuh mengangkat mukanya seolah-olah teringat sesuatu.

"Oh ya, tadi aku lalu di suatu tempat yang tanahnya disebalik sungai. Orang-orangnya sepertimu, menyambutku dengan penuh kesukaan, menjamuku dengan pelbagai hidangan yang lazat serta mengiurkan. Hidangan yang paling kusuka adalah buah Tahajjud, puas kucari dibumi lain, tapi jarang kujumpa. Di situ aku meratah buah Tahajjud dengan puas serta leka".

Dan Subuh merenung mataku mengharapkan sesuatu. Aku fahami maksud Subuh.

"Maaf Subuh, aku tiada menanam pohon Al-Lail, jadi aku tidak dapat menghidangkanmu dengan buah yang kau sukai. Tapi aku ada Roti Shiyam",cadangku pada Subuh.

Subuh menolak dengan hormat. "Roti itu ada tuan punyanya", kata Subuh.

"Adakah kau mahu manisan Zikir?" rayuku pada Subuh.

"Baiklah, ambilkan aku sedikit, serta bawakan aku segelas Air Mata Tangisan", pinta Subuh.

Aku agak sugul, bagaimana harusku beritahu pada Subuh, yang Mata Air Tangisan sudah hampir kekeringan akibat kemarau Maksiat yang berpanjangan? Namun, aku tetap menjenguk ke dalam Perigi yang memuatkan Mata Air tersebut. Aku terkejut. Perigi tersebut hampir separuh penuhnya. Dan aku berdetik didalam hati, adakah ini tanda kemarau akan berakhir? Tanpa berlengah lagi kubawa Air tersebut pada Subuh, tetamu yang kusanjungi, dan kusuakan manisan yang dipintanya. Selesai menjamah kesemuanya, Subuh pun melirikkan sebuah senyuman.

"Subuh ..", seruku, "... mahukah kau tinggal selamanya denganku? Aku memerlukan teman dalam kesunyian. Akan kulayan kau dengan sebaiknya,wahai Subuh". Subuh tersenyum lagi menandakan permintaanku tidak akan terpenuhi. "Aku perlu menziarahi ramai orang, dan ramai lagi yang memerlukan
kehadiranku untuk mengubati rindu mereka, sepertimana aku menguliti mimpimu".

Dan aku akur dengan penjelasan Subuh. "Subuh",.. seruku lagi bila melihat Subuh bersiap untuk pergi, "Sudikah kau menziarahiku lagi esok hari?"
"InsyaAllah", jawab Subuh,"... bukankah aku kekasih yang kau rindui?"
Subuh berangkat dengan lambat tetapi tetap.

"Assalamualaikum", seru Subuh.

"Waalaikumsalam", jawabku kembali.

Dan mataku terus meniti langkah Subuh, yang semakin laju dengan setiap
langkah. Dan akhirnya Subuh hilang dari pandangan.

P/S : Apalah agaknya keluh kesah dari Zohor, Asar, Magrib dan Isyak?
Jawapannya... tersirat dalam diri.

assalamualeikum wbt

It's already 1:25 am in the morning and I'm still here in front of my humble computer (hahaha...) writing on my bloggie. Got this again from uwmisa.org

In front of the person you love, your heart beats faster
But in front of the person you like, you get happy.

In front of the person you love, winter seems like spring
But in front of the person you like, winter is just beautiful winter.

If you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush
But if you look into the eyes of the one you like, you smile.

In front of the person you love, you can't say everything on your mind
But in front of the person you like, you can.

In front of the person you love, you tend to get shy
But in front of the person you like, you can show your own self.

You can't look straight into the eyes of the one you love
But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like.

When the one you love is crying, you cry with them
But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting.

The feeling of love starts from the eye
But the feeling of like starts from the ear.

So if you stop liking a person you used to like all, you need to do is cover your ears. But if you try to close your eyes, love turns into a drop of tear and remains in your heart forever after…

hmm... means that I like many people but love only few of them... LOL
There'll be elections tonite at Memorial Union -- hopefully they'll choose a good leader; am I? hmm.. choose wisely eh! love love love love love love love is love.

assalamualeikum wbt

trying hard to study cs for exam this wednesday. Pray for my success please... jazakallah.. and below, an article from uwmisa's website. Enjoy!

Dalam al-Quran, ada digambarkan empat jenis wanita yang bergelar isteri.

Pertama, jenis ideal isteri Musa. walaupun al-Quran tidak menyebut namanya, namun isteri Musa ini dikenali sebagai Safura anak perempuan Syuaib. Safura digambarkan seorang gadis murni. Dia tertarik dengan Musa. Cintanya kepada calon suami, tidak hanya demi kebahagiaan keluarga, iaitu membantu ayahnya. Al-Quran menggambarkan cinta mulia dan halus Safura melalui ayat 26 surah al-Qashash yang bermaksud:

"Salah seorang dari kedua wanita itu berkata "Ya bapaku ambillah ia sebagai orang yang bekerja (pada kita), kerana sesungguhnya orang yang paling baik yang kamu ambil untuk bekerja (pada kita) ialah orang yang kuat lagi dapat dipercayai"

Dan sesungguhnya perkahwinan yang ideal ialah perempuan yang mulia serta setia berpasangan dengan suami yang kuat lagi amanah. Inilah pasangan romantis sebenar.

Kedua, jenis isteri Abu Lahab iaitu perempuan jahat berganding dengan suami terkutuk. Dalam surah al-Lahab ayat 3 dan 4 yang bermaksud:

"Kelak dia akan masuk ke dalam api yang bergejolak. Dan (begitu pula)isterinya, pembawa kayu bakar"

Isteri Abu Lahab bernama Ummu Jamil tidak disebut dalam al-Quran. Abu Lahab memiliki akhlak buruk dan dikatakan pernah mencuri emas yang terdapat di Kaabah kerana tamak dan rakusnya. Isterinya pula seorang penyombong dan memiliki perasaan hasad dengki yang kuat. Jadi, tugasnya ialah pembantu setia kejahatan suaminya. Kalau Abu Lahab merupakan penentang utama terhadap nabi s.a.w, maka isterinya adalah pendorong utama yang turut aktif di dalam kegiatan jenayah suaminya. Jadi jika suami diumpamakan terbakar dalam kejahatan nafsu, isteri pula pembawa kayu api - iaitu pengobar kejahatan suami. Maknanya isteri aktif dalam kegiatan jahat suami.

Ketiga, isteri baik dalam genggaman suami yang jahat. Watak ini menyebut isteri Firaun sebagai contohnya. Walaupun Firaun melalui al-Quran merupakan seorang Raja Besar yang dikutuk Allah, namun isterinya disanjung tinggi dalam al-Quran. Isteri Firaun yang kononnya bernama Asiah ini juga tidak diberikan nama oleh al-Quran. Ia disebut sebagai "imraatu Firaun" atau perempuan Firaun sahaja.

Walaupun Asiah ditakdirkan berpasangan sebagai suami isteri dengan Firaun, namun tindakan akhlaknya sangat bertentangan dengan suaminya yang zalim itu. Asiah menyelamatkan Musa, sebaliknya Firaun ingin menghapuskan Musa. Dia berkenan dan beriman dengan ajaran Islam yang dibawa Musa. Semua manusia dilingkungannya menyembah Firaun sebagai Tuhan, tetapi dia diam-diam menyembah Allah.

Keempat ialah watak perempuan Nuh dan Lut. Isteri dua orang nabi a.s ini dinyatakan Allah melalui al_Quran surah at-Tahriim ayat 10 yang bermaksud:

"Allah membuat isteri Nuh dan isteri Lut perumpamaan bagi orang-orang kafir. Keduanya berada di bawah pengawasan dua orang hamba yang salih di antara hamba-hamba Kami;lalu kedua isteri itu berkhianat kepada kedua suaminya, maka kedua suaminya itu tiada dapat membantu mereka sedikitpun, dari (seksa) Allah; dan dikatakan (kepada keduanya);"masuklah ke neraka bersama orang-orang yang masuk (neraka)"

Isteri Lut kononnya bernama Wa'ilah, tetapi isteri Nuh tidak diketahui namanya. Namun kedua perempuan ini juga tidak disebut dalam al-Quran siapakah nama mereka.Keduanya adalah isteri kepada dua lelaki pilihan Allah, namun mereka disifatkan oleh Allah sebagai pengkhianat dan menjadi ahli neraka.

Demikianlah gambaran watak isteri dalam al-Quran.